Ex's are Ex's for a reason

  I really thought that my ex and I had reached a point where we could talk without arguing or getting angry. I was definitely wrong. I remarried 2 years ago and my ex remarried last year. Which is fantastic. The problem is, his wife is...well I have no words that could explain it in a nice way. All I can safely say is that she is definitely NOT about doing what is right for the kids. It came down to me telling my ex today that he needs to grow a pair and tell her that the kids come first. That it is NOT about her. I for the life of me, can not figure out what this woman thinks she is doing. Maybe it's just me but, I think that this is between me and my ex. She has nothing to do with it. Daniel stands on the sidelines and acknowledges that when it comes to serious issues that involve the kids, that I have to deal with my ex. He has never thrown a fit about it and he sure as hell hasn't interfered the way my ex's wife has and does. The conversation tonight ended with me telling my ex that he won't hear from me again. I told him that he is free to communicate with the kids, as he has always been free to do. I have not kept him from talking to them or seeing them. But I made it very clear that  it is his responsibility to maintain a relationship with the kids. That is no longer my job. It is not my responsibility. He is a grown man and he needs to hold himself accountable for his actions. While I don't really care if his wife likes me or not, I do care about whether she makes things hard for my children. I told him I will NOT tolerate another phone call from her screaming and yelling, making my kids feel like crap. I told him, I will not allow it. I am done dealing with her.  I am so angry right now that I can't think straight.

Yes, she lives =)

 I promise, I have not fallen off the face of the planet. I know that I have been pretty scarce this week. I have been down with a migraine, and my Lupus is out of remission right now. As a result, I have days that I can't get up because of the pain. This week has just been one of those weeks. I really try to limit having to take the Prednisone and other steroids when it comes out of remission. My body doesn't handle steroids too well.  I just wanted to touch base and let you guys know that I am still here. Just dealing with a lot right now.

Bullying

   We all know what bullying is. I am sure at some point in our lives we have been the target of it. Whether it was as a child, a teen or as an adult. We all know what it feels like. Bullies have been making headlines in the past few months for one reason or another. It's obvious that it has become one of the biggest problems in schools lately. I am not sure how to even begin to understand the bully mentality. I was bullied in Jr. High for a time. It was horrible. And now two of my children are being bullied in school. It's been an ongoing issue for about a year or so now. At first I didn't know it was bullying that was causing the emotional ups and downs that Hunter and Liam were displaying. I thought that they were just going through the typical phases that kids go through with their emotions. And then they started not wanting to go to school. I talked to the boys and they just kind of clammed up. For the most part I'd say. hunter and Liam started becoming aggressive and were being mean to their sisters. It was constant hitting, kicking, biting. You get the idea. The first thought that comes to mind is sibling rivalry right? That's what I thought. I tried everything I could to stop it. Finally it just became too much and I sat them down and asked them what was going on. It took about an hour to get them to tell me what was going on. They opened up and told me they were being bullied at school. Not just by one or two people either. It was more like 6 or 7 kids that were doing it. I got names and went to the school about it. This was before Christmas. I was told that it would be addressed and handled . Apparently, it wasn't handled. It came to our attention last week that they boys were still being bullied. Seems only a few of the kids involved had stopped. Daniel went straight to the principal and brought it to his attention that it was still going on. Can you believe the principal told Daniel that he never spoke to me about this issue. Um  riiiiiiight. Daniel said seriously? You don't remember my wife coming in here just before Christmas? He went on to say "I find it hard to believe you don't remember my wife coming in here with her ex and his wife." The principal said that I never came in to see him. Daniel said hmm, that's strange because everyone in this office remembers that day. Everyone in the office remembers the day quite vividly. The day in question I showed up at the school and was told the principal didn't want to talk to me. At that point i told the receptionist that I didn't care if he didn't WANT to talk to me. That as principal of the school it was his JOB to deal with upset parents. And that he was going to do his damn job. Needless to say he DID talk to me that day. Now, back to what I was saying.  Daniel spoke to the principal and made him aware that the bullying was still going on. Essentially he was told it would be handled again. Somehow, I'm not holding my breath. I will give them a little time to deal with it but after that, I'll go to the school board and look into filing charges. I am not going to stand by and let these kids continue to bully my boys. It's not simple name calling either. It's hitting, punching, kicking. It's gone far enough. So it looks like I will be sitting down with the school board soon if this doesn't stop.