Ex's are Ex's for a reason

  I really thought that my ex and I had reached a point where we could talk without arguing or getting angry. I was definitely wrong. I remarried 2 years ago and my ex remarried last year. Which is fantastic. The problem is, his wife is...well I have no words that could explain it in a nice way. All I can safely say is that she is definitely NOT about doing what is right for the kids. It came down to me telling my ex today that he needs to grow a pair and tell her that the kids come first. That it is NOT about her. I for the life of me, can not figure out what this woman thinks she is doing. Maybe it's just me but, I think that this is between me and my ex. She has nothing to do with it. Daniel stands on the sidelines and acknowledges that when it comes to serious issues that involve the kids, that I have to deal with my ex. He has never thrown a fit about it and he sure as hell hasn't interfered the way my ex's wife has and does. The conversation tonight ended with me telling my ex that he won't hear from me again. I told him that he is free to communicate with the kids, as he has always been free to do. I have not kept him from talking to them or seeing them. But I made it very clear that  it is his responsibility to maintain a relationship with the kids. That is no longer my job. It is not my responsibility. He is a grown man and he needs to hold himself accountable for his actions. While I don't really care if his wife likes me or not, I do care about whether she makes things hard for my children. I told him I will NOT tolerate another phone call from her screaming and yelling, making my kids feel like crap. I told him, I will not allow it. I am done dealing with her.  I am so angry right now that I can't think straight.